We Have a Choice, and We Are Choosing to Traumatize Children

I know. "Political" posts. Scroll on if your heart's too heavy.
I get it.
In all the defenses of what is happening at the border, the common thread over and over is that it is "necessary." It is "necessary" because of some law or some policy. It is "necessary" to send a message. It is "necessary" else the children would be imprisoned with their parents. It is "necessary" because if we are kinder, illegal immigrants take advantage and it is harder to solve the problem.
We are saddened this is happening to the children, but it is just the way things are -- it is "necessary."
And they believe that. It isn't a cruel, heartless "make the children suffer" stance. They honestly believe we don't have choice. They are sad that it has come to this but we don't have a choice.
Except -- we do.
This is America. The "strongest" nation in the world.
We have a choice.
We have lots of choices.
We wrote the policies and the laws. We can change them. Maybe not you, not me, but the people in charge saying their hands are tied are the very people who made this happen. If they can make it happen, they can also stop it.
We do not need to seperate children. They can be held with their parents. We can treat the children better. We don't need to take them away without explaining anything to them. And if we determine they do need to be taken away, well, then we don't need to remove their shoelaces and treat them as criminals. We don't need to put them in kiddie prisons where no on is allowed to touch them if they cry, including their own siblings. Because afterall, we don't need to take them away at all. Ask a parent if they want their kid imprisoned with them, or imprisoned alone with other kids and see what they say. That is the current state of things. This isn't foster care. It isn't a large daycare or "summer camp." The children are treated as prisoners and offered no emotional counseling.
We do not need to torture children to send a message.
Unless you truly believe that the "best" nation in the world is too stupid to figure anything else out, is too dumb to solve a problem they themselves created. Which is it? Are we the best? Or the laziest?
We do not need to torture children to curb illegal immigration. It is one of a million of choices. It is a CHOICE. It is not even a choice that has been proven to work. Just a choice.
I get it. As the common person we are often faced with laws and policies that we can't change. We are often forced into situations we don't want to be in because we lack the power.
Well, these are the people in power making this choice.
This is why people are mad at congress. The ICE worker can follow the rules or lose their job. The president can change the rules. That's the difference.
This policy is put in place by us and it can be changed by us. How the children are being treated was decided by us and can be changed by us.
Nothing about this is "necessary."
And I get it. It is HORRIBLE. And you want to believe that there is a good reason for it. A just reason. Perhaps, at a minimum, it is protecting you.
Let's pause a moment and inspect this logic:
From who? From what are you being protected by emotionally traumatizing children? Illegal immigration is a complex problem that has been going on for centuries. Firstly, if illegal immigration is what scares you period, well good! These are people who didn't make it in! Illegal immigration stopped. No one is saying let them come in anyway or even "let them go." (They're just saying keep their children with them.) And if you're more concerned about the motives of the individuals at the border, well even more good news. You are not immediately in danger from anyone who has been captured at the border. These people are captured. These people have purposefully turned themselves in. And they are not all here "to get you." They are being HELD. So, therefore, torturing children is a punishment, not directly a preventative measure. And it punishes the children far more than the parents. To make a statement to future "others" they can't use children to get in.

Is that really worth it? That is the desirable choice we're making? Okay, let's follow that out then.
Some people follow rules because of punishments. But if you're right and the evil people are truly evil, this isn't going to stop them anyway. Anyway, they're not going to care that you're torturing children. So they'll just come without them if they don't think it will help, which means only people who have to bring children will do so, and then, guess what -- you're just left standing there, torturing children of people who only had worse options, or who don't care anyway. You (America) is choosing to torture ALL children that come to the border in the name of preventing a FEW from being used by those with devious means.... Can you imagine if a government official came to you, and told you they'd have to take your children to one of these facilities because some people in your neighborhood could be using the guise of being a family to commit a crime? Because they can't tell the difference between a real family and fake one? They can't investigate those claims while keeping you together? Would you feel that was necessary? It's ridiculous. And so is what is happening at the border.
Regardless, that is sill a choice.
Not a necessity.
The parents who have to decide to let a child die or have them be tortured by the US emotionally and psychologically, still has a choice, but I can sympathize with the one they are making. I can't sympathize with the choice to torture children because we're (we = CONGRESS) too lazy or dumb to come up with something more humane.
We all have choices. They chose to break the law because for whatever reason they thought it would be better. We should deal with that. But we get to CHOOSE how we deal with that. We don't have HAVE to torture the children because of what their parents did. The simplest solution is to keep them together. That is it.
They know this "necessary" argument is hair thin and that you have to cling to it or face the harrowing truth that our government has a choice -- it has LOTS of choices -- and it is CHOOSING to psychologically and emotionally damage minors.
That isn't an easy thing to acknowledge.
I feel you. It doesn't seem real. We're told to trust those in charge because they know better than us. But those in charge are human. Those in charge are flawed too. They make mistakes.
We have to acknowledge this or, it isn't going to change.
Not acknowledging it, is just going to make it easier for them to do whatever they want in the future based on the plea that it is "necessary."

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