I applied to 6 graduate schools. 4 have rejected me, 3 by email. After the first one I was tired of being rejected by email.
I think what really got me was that I expected the rejection to be followed by a paper rejection. What? You may ask, who wants to be doubly rejected. Well, who wants to not even be worth the price or effort of a sheet of paper?
One school is sending a paper confirmation, and I do feel more respected. However, I suppose in these environmentally friendly times it is better to reject by email. It is quick and easy and saves part of a tree.
I do like this idea of knowing quicker whether I got in or not- but will they accept me by email as well? or if I see an email from another school should I just know?
I think the extra kick comes because, the way my email account is set up, it shows me the first line of each email. When the first line of the email has "regret" in it, is there any reason to read further?
They have each told me that their program was too small and the good candidates too many. The one sending the paper rejection (who only accepts 3 people a year) actually made me feel like I had been in the running. The others made me feel like they were using their size as an excuse so that they didn't have to tell me I suck.
Would a better reason made the digital rejection sting less?
Rejection is rejection is rejection, or is it? People are usually flabbergasted to hear that someone dumped someone by text message or chat. But that was a few years ago? A few weeks ago I heard someone refer, quite naturally, to a friend of their's being dumped through a letter- sent by text message. 3 texts long mind you. The friend was thinking of dumping the girl anyway, but no one in the situation seemed offended or overly surprised.
Maybe it is the degree of rejection. OR maybe it is simply the age we are moving into.
As a note: I prefer to be rejected the old fashioned way. By official mail post or face to face. At least letter rejections would keep the post officers in business.
I think what really got me was that I expected the rejection to be followed by a paper rejection. What? You may ask, who wants to be doubly rejected. Well, who wants to not even be worth the price or effort of a sheet of paper?
One school is sending a paper confirmation, and I do feel more respected. However, I suppose in these environmentally friendly times it is better to reject by email. It is quick and easy and saves part of a tree.
I do like this idea of knowing quicker whether I got in or not- but will they accept me by email as well? or if I see an email from another school should I just know?
I think the extra kick comes because, the way my email account is set up, it shows me the first line of each email. When the first line of the email has "regret" in it, is there any reason to read further?
They have each told me that their program was too small and the good candidates too many. The one sending the paper rejection (who only accepts 3 people a year) actually made me feel like I had been in the running. The others made me feel like they were using their size as an excuse so that they didn't have to tell me I suck.
Would a better reason made the digital rejection sting less?
Rejection is rejection is rejection, or is it? People are usually flabbergasted to hear that someone dumped someone by text message or chat. But that was a few years ago? A few weeks ago I heard someone refer, quite naturally, to a friend of their's being dumped through a letter- sent by text message. 3 texts long mind you. The friend was thinking of dumping the girl anyway, but no one in the situation seemed offended or overly surprised.
Maybe it is the degree of rejection. OR maybe it is simply the age we are moving into.
As a note: I prefer to be rejected the old fashioned way. By official mail post or face to face. At least letter rejections would keep the post officers in business.
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